The following is an automated transcript of episode 41 of The Elevate Empire Podcast

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Hey, there! What you’re about to listen to is the replay from a live call that I did for the free Pause Process Masterclass Series that I did in February.

And this was an incredibly profound, deep, and really, really full experience. I shared about a fire hose’s worth of information and guidance. So this is going to be a longer episode than I usually make this one and the one tomorrow will be longer for sure. And this was a live Zoom call that I did and it was also on Facebook, but mostly it was me and a client on Zoom and most people were catching the replay and many of you stated that you would love it in podcast form.

So I am putting it here. So I just wanted to give you a heads up that this is a live video call. So there might be some aspects that you might feel like you’re missing. But I tried to make sure that I explained any visuals with my words as well to make it available via just listening. So if you are left with any questions through or after listening to this today, I want you to reach out to me either through email or over on Instagram to let me know what questions that you have so that I can make sure to clarify it for you so that you have everything that you need to move forward with this information.

So that is all for this. I am so excited for you to be diving into this and today is day one is a lot of information and then on day two, which will be available tomorrow on the podcast. So make sure you’re subscribed so that you get everything already set to go for you. And tomorrow you will learn the actual framework, but we’ll get more into that in the actual episode. So without further ado, let’s dive on in to day one. Yeah, we’re doing this. So if you’ve been around for a little while, I ran this same similar thing two years ago, almost exactly two years ago, I ran the pause process and it has shifted approximately a crap time since then it has evolved, it has morphed, it is so much more than it used to be.

Um It was amazing and powerful and transformative then and even more so now. So I’m super excited to share all of the new things that I have learned that I have learned through guiding my clients through this. Most of you. I think there were only a couple of people who signed up who are new to me. I am Megan, I’m Megan Stoddard. I am a master certified life coach and a human design expert. I have been coaching in one capacity or another for nine years now. That’s crazy.

I am a mom of three Children. I’ve got my almost eight month old taking a nap. I have my four year old walking around. Um I my office is in a really random atrium in the middle of our house. We moved into this house in December and like it’s really cool. It’s really interesting. You can see, I’ve got like my fairy lights up. I don’t have a super decorated. Cute. Yeah, I wanna get curtains up though to give me some privacy because right now it’s like I’m an official literally official.

So if you see her wandering around, that’s my four year old and then I have a seven year old who is a school. So my three sweet Children um I am also someone who okay just making sure she wasn’t screaming, she’s playing were good. I was diagnosed, let’s see, like a year and a half ago with PTSD when I had some memories of childhood abuse come up from way back when. So that is me. That’s like me and a very small nutshell. I also like dance. Dance is like my whole thing. Right.

I Jen does. Um, that’s what I studied in college and I went on to dance professionally for a while and I miss it dearly. Maybe someday we’ll come back into my life and now is not the time and that’s totally fine. So um a couple of just like housekeeping things, so this is being recorded. So replace will be available. I will also be posting the audio on my podcast. So that’s an easier way for you to listen as well. That’s an option. Um And a couple of things to help you implement right off the bat.

I would recommend you have something to take notes with whether that’s just your phone or a journal or sticky notes, whatever is your jam, have something to take notes on because if you’re like me, which maybe you’re not, maybe you’re really good at remembering things. Some of that will have to do with your human design. Some of that has to do with just who you are as human. Um The fact that I’m a quad, right in human design and also I’m very sleep deprived at the moment.

I have a hard time remembering things. So it’s really good for me to write things down as they come up so that I can go back and look through. In fact. So I’ve got this journal right here that I was looking through last night that I went through. I was in a business mastermind last year and I was, this is what I used for it and I was looking back through it yesterday and I was like blowing my own mind. It was really what my husband was laughing at me.

I was like, babe, look at this, I’m so smart. Look at all these cool things that I know and then like I have and can keep using and that I forgot about what he was like, yeah, you’re really good at this Megan. You just forgot. So I have something to write things down with. Um I also this is something that I like to do. So if this resonates with you and feels good, take a screenshot, take a picture posted on your like Instagram stories or on tiktok or on Facebook or whatever and share what you’re about to be going through.

It’s kind of fun to have sort of like a before and after when you go through these things like, hey, this is what I’m about to learn. I don’t really know what’s going to happen. But I’m at the start of this journey of learning how to actually process my emotions, how to actually feel my feelings and then like it put it out into the three D world. So when I do things like that, it helps me stay a little bit more committed. It helps me show up not only to the actual calls, but also for implementation, right?

So if that feels good, do that, you can tag me. I love to celebrate you and, and shout you out as well for being here. Um And then after you do that, put your devices on, do not disturb and just be here, just be here. Um Also, if at any point I’m talking too fast, please let me know that has always been something like when I get excited, I talk fast. So, but I also like to listen to podcasts on stuff on like 1.5 speed. So maybe you’re my kind of people and that won’t bother you.

Um And then another thing This cost you $224. You didn’t pay any money for this, but you are paying your time, which is crazy valuable, so valuable. And I totally do not take that for granted. I am so grateful that you’re choosing to spend this time here with me. Um so my advice, you’re spending your time to be here. So don’t have asset be here. Really allow yourself to be as present as you possibly can be immersed in this process here for the next few days at a minimum.

And I promise you you are going to have a very tangible, very important transformation. Um So you’re here because you want to learn how to feel your feelings, right? Um This is gonna be really good for you. If you tend to bypass a lot of your feelings, you know, emotionally bypassing is a thing. Um This is great for you if you want to learn how to like use your emotions for what they are, which is indicators and teachers, right? If you want to stop making them mean things that are not helpful to you and just use them and see them and experience them for what they are at their purest and highest level.

Um And then this is also perfect for you if you just want to take your human experience to the next level, right? Like if you’re done just going through the motions and just numbing out and just not feeling it right? You know that there’s just more to be experienced and you want to know what that looks like, it feels like this is gonna help you do that. So the pause process, what is the pause process? Well, it’s an evidence-based process for safely and efficiently processing all kinds of emotions.

And I say evidence based because it’s something that I have been using, not only with myself and my family, like I use it with my kids, my husband, but I’ve also been using it with my clients for the past what year are we in? 23 since 233. So for the past three years and every single time it brings results every single time. And this process is for integrating the learnings for forward focused evolution, which is a lot of fancy words, right? Feelings have a purpose, right? Mhm This is this process is allowing you to utilize them for their purpose, like feeling your feelings.

That’s what this whole thing is about, right? You’ve heard the importance of feeling your feelings but like how this is how and it’s so interesting because when I, when I came about like when I put this into a framework, it came about because it was, this is one of those things that has always just come pretty naturally to me. I never knew that people didn’t know how to feel their feelings. I thought everyone just know you just feel your feelings and that’s why I get to bring my super power into the world.

That’s why I get to bring this to you because I know how to do it. And now you get to learn to, you get to benefit from my gifts. It’s not so cool. I geek so hard on that. So good. One thing that’s so so important to keep in mind throughout this entire process, not only through these few days, but anytime feelings arise in your body at any time and this takes practice. So give yourself some grace with what I’m about to say. Is that there’s no such thing as bad or negative feelings.

All feelings are necessary, all feelings are a gift, there are challenging emotions, there are unpleasant feelings. There can be some downright painful feelings we don’t have to enjoy and like all of the feelings. But I’m going to challenge you to ask yourself, is it serving me to call some emotions bad or negative? Is it serving me to think that I’m having negative feelings at any point in my life? Is it serving me to think? Oh, that anger was really bad. That anger is a really negative feeling because I know that was a huge shift for me.

It’s just so there’s something and you can Google this if you’ve never heard of this before, but there’s something called the emotional thermometer. So imagine a picture of a thermometer, right? And at the bottom of the thermometer is like, I’m pretty sure shame is the lowest level. The lowest vibrational frequency on an emotional scale is shame. And then the highest one it’s either joy lover piece. It’s one of those three. So they’re all there. It’s all just a measurement, right? They all vibrate at different frequencies like actual scientific frequencies. Numbers.

Do I remember any of those numbers now? Because that doesn’t matter to me if it matters to you, you can totally go research that and figure that out. But they just all have different numbers. Those numbers don’t mean anything. They’re just information. So moving forward, you’re never gonna hear me say that there’s a bad feeling or a negative feeling, okay. There’s challenging unpleasant, not fun feelings, okay. And for the greatest efficiency of processing our feelings, we need to be able to feel them on all levels. All aspects of our being need to be able to experience them in some way, shape or form.

And that right there is where the policy process came from is knowing that we need to feel it in all aspects of the self. So again, if you’ve been here for a little while, the last time, there’s this, there’s a free um workshop that I ran a couple of times called activate your healing. I think the last time I ran it was last spring sometime where we talked about the physical self, the mental self and the spiritual or soul, self, spiritual energetic soul, whatever word resonates with you, choose that one.

And so we need to be able to feel our feelings on all three levels, not levels, just um aspects of the self, right? You need to be able to feel it mentally, you need to be able to feel it physically, you need to be able to feel it energetically, all three of those or what is going to bring about an efficient processing system, right? And the cool thing is you can literally start with any of them and it will affect, it will affect the rest. So maybe one day you’re feeling like you’re really available mentally but not necessarily physically, start with the mental aspect and then the rest will follow suit.

Now, you can’t just ignore the others, right. So, like if you’re feeling just physically down, but mentally you’re available have that in your awareness, in the background, running in the background. Right? It’s kind of like in your phone when you can just have other apps running in the background, but you’re not using them. It’s kind of the same thing. Don’t close out of it, don’t just ignore it. Have it be just hanging out in your general vague awareness, right? Um Have you heard the quote? A rising tide lifts all boats?

Same concept, right? Oh, you’ve never heard that quote? Oh, that’s such a good one. It’s one of my favorites and that’s one of the reasons why I love to like work on my gifts and my healing because as I work on my healing, that tide is gonna rise, the healing of anyone else’s within my energetic sphere. Not so cool. Doesn’t that make sense? Right. And like think about it a rising tide lifts all boats. We are the boats. What can we do to rise the tide? So cool. Right.

Oh, I love that. So work on your physical health and your emotional and mental health will follow suit. As long as you have the awareness, their awareness is always the first step for any kind of change facilitation. So I’m gonna just give like a super quick like cliff notes version of what is the mental self, the physical self and the energetic self just super quick. Again, if you’ve gone through, activate your feeling before we went into these in great, great depth. So I’m not gonna go super in depth because I try to remember, I think I have those still available inside the Facebook group, those trainings.

Um So those are available if you want to go deeper into this. So there’s the mental cell and this is where actually a lot of my coaching training has come from was is working with the mental self, working with the subconscious mind. So my master coaching certification, I mean, so I got master certified and life coaching in hypnotherapy in neuro linguistic programming. A few other things I can, I always forget how to list them all off, but there’s a few, this is where a lot of my training came from.

And it’s so fascinating because the subconscious mind is wild, amazing. It’s so cool and it’s really cool to the between the mental self, the physical self and the energetic self. There’s so much crossover as well. So that’s what I’m going to kind of show you and why they’re all tied together is why they’re all affected when you work on one, you work on all of them, right? So number one key thing to remember is that healing happens and change happens most quickly and efficiently at the subconscious level.

Now choosing to do it all consciously, it totally works, doing things consciously creating change, consciously, it just takes more time, it takes more effort and it takes more energy. And as a mom of three kids, I, I like to be able to be smart with my time and my effort and my energy because I like to be able to have energy left over to do things that I actually enjoy doing. So I highly recommend working with the subconscious mind because it’s not much more efficient. Um And like consciously, so like the difference would be doing change work subconsciously like hypnotherapy, like E F T like NLP stuff.

There’s so much work that can be done with NLP um change, work with that versus consciously like um like affirmations day, like daily affirmations or um daily meditation, which has a little bit of crossover but or like habit stuff, right? They say it takes 2333 days to create a habit, which is a total lie. By the way, that’s something I talked about. Way back when I first started life coaching, I did this free course called the Habit Creation Formula. And when I was researching that I learned That the 22 day myth came about as a kind of a bad game of telephone.

The research study that that came from The the result was actually that it took anywhere I can’t remember, I think it took anywhere from like 222 to like 23 days to form a habit. Like it was this huge wide range and 22 was like the number that they clung onto for some reason. So it could take anywhere upwards of a year to create a new habit if you’re doing it consciously. So first of all, if you do choose to go about creating a new habit or anything like that, consciously give yourself a crap ton of grace because it can take that much time and there’s nothing wrong with that.

That is also another thing to know is that there’s not, there’s nothing wrong with choosing to do things consciously. There’s nothing wrong with using more time, using more effort, using more energy to create change in your life. The power is knowledge or knowledge is power. All the sleep deprivation is real. Um I’m so glad you get it. I love that you have your kid right there with you. You um anyhow, so just know the difference between the two, right? So that you don’t get caught up in making things mean thing, right?

If it’s taking you a long time, just recognize I’m choosing to do this consciously right now and it’s going to take more time, it’s gonna take more effort, it’s gonna take more energy or choose to do it unconsciously. Instead, I’m gonna, I’m gonna get into the actual framework tomorrow today. We’re laying the groundwork so that you have an understanding of why and how the framework works. Okay. So keep that in mind, we’ll learn some subconscious techniques tomorrow that you can use all by yourself. Um And then something else about the mental self that’s so cool.

And this is where we start to get a little bit of crossover into the physical self and the energetic self. So with the subconscious mind, thoughts, memories, beliefs, all of those they’re stored in your subconscious mind like filing cabinets. Remember that when we start talking about the physical self, okay? It’s like it’s like little filing cabinets, right? You’ve got a little file over here with memories about this. You’ve got little files over here with generational beliefs. You’ve got little thoughts over here that have been filed away about money, right?

Anything they’re stored like filing cabinets. And that’s one of the things that I have learned as a master NLP practitioner is how to access those different files and be able to shift things around in a way that suits your desires in a more high level way. Um Okay. And then another thing that’s really important to know about the mental self is the difference between association and dissociation. So again, whether you’re here live or catching the replay, let me know if you already know the difference between those two.

I’m still gonna share what? Okay. Totally cool. I’m going to tell you, I’m gonna tell you so to be associated. So like close your eyes and think of what you were doing an hour ago, just pull up that memory and then there’s no right or wrong answer just recognized to see. Are you seeing this memory through your own eyes or are you seeing yourself in the memory? Like a, like a picture? Because that’s the difference. It’s that simple. If you’re looking at it through your own eyes as a picture case, so your dissociated from that memory, if you’re looking at a memory through your own eyes, you’re associated to that memory, you’re associated to that thought, you’re associated to that belief.

And if you, if you’re like kind of zoomed out and you see yourself in it, your dissociated from it. And that’s why in trauma, you hear a lot that a common trauma response is to be dissociated from thoughts, beliefs, memories and all that kind of stuff. It’s like a protective mechanism. So they both serve a purpose, being associated and dissociated, both serve a purpose and something we’re gonna talk about as we get towards the end of this is your human design strategy and authority. And that’s where this is, this is one of those things where that’s going to come into play um is recognizing when one is going to serve you versus the other. Okay.

Uh These are just a few suggestions that are generally speaking helpful. Now again, I do not create blanket statements. There’s no such thing as one answer for everyone. So remember that with anything that I say throughout these next three days, okay. One thing that I have found helpful and I have found helpful with a lot of my clients is to associate with your desired state. So what I mean by that? So a state is a feeling, a state of being is a way that you are feeling, right?

Um So if you are feeling one way and you would rather feel another way, right? That’s what this process is kind of for, right? We’ll get through the process. But by the end of the process, you want to be associated to that state. So like I was talking in the Facebook group on Monday about the sun transit that we are going through right now and the transit that was the new moon, right? Yes. Right. Freaking mind blown. So abundance were in the gate of abundance right now, right?

Freaking out. And the coolest reminder to me that I constantly love getting this reminder because it’s so easy for me to forget is that abundance is a state of being. Abundance is not a tangible outcome, it’s not a result. Abundance is a feeling. So if you want to experience abundance, associate to that feeling so close your eyes and visualize and feel in your body, what it feels like to feel abundant and the more you’re associated with it, the more your nervous system, the more your actual cells will start to get comfortable with it and being like, oh yeah, this is us, this resonates with us.

This is we are this, this is who I am. Okay. So, associating to your desired state is generally something that’s going to be helpful and then dissociation is helpful when you want to release what is no longer serving you. So oftentimes like fear trauma, you’re not self teams within your human design, right? Dissociating from that can help you recognize like, oh, that’s not actually who I am. It helps you kind of release it from an identity level and help you see it as like a separate thought, a separate state of being something that is not who you are.

It’s just something that you were experiencing, keyword were passed, you were experiencing that and you no longer are. So as you dissociate, you separate from it. Yeah, okay. Um Another thing and this totally varies. This is one where it’s like 222 222. So take this one, however, it feels for you. This is something that’s very helpful for me is to also disassociate from what you desire like a goal, right? Not necessarily a state of being but like a tangible goal, right? So like if I wanted to lose £10 if I wanted to make X amount of money or if I wanted to live in this particular place or go on this vacation, like an actual goal, right?

For me, if I dissociate from it and I place that goal in my future timeline, it gives me something to move toward. It gives me something to take action toward. Because for me, when I was associated, cause a lot of a lot of like manifestation, people out there will tell you to bury, to step into the picture, to associate with it. And again, that totally works for some people. But for me, I would step into it and then I would feel like it was already done like, oh, it’s done.

I don’t need to do anything now and then I wouldn’t take any action on it because, but it already happened. My subconscious mind is like we don’t need to do anything. It’s already happened. Right? John says I got, I get overwhelmed by associated with the gold. Yes. Okay. I’m trying to do, you know what your arrows are on your human design. I’m trying to remember. I looked at it the other day because from the more you have pointed or your bottom right arrow. Is that one pointing to the right?

I’m trying to remember. I could actually probably pull it up to, oh, I don’t know. Your messages went okay. Just type it in the chat when you see it. I’ll keep an eye out for that. Um But yeah, that one is 5050 and it doesn’t just have to do with the arrows. There’s a lot more that can become involved in that. Um, but again, Play with that one as you will. Oh, my gosh. Totally fine. But I’m totally good at looking at the chat. You’re good. You are good.

I totally understand having loud Children. Yes. Um, okay, let’s see. Okay. So moral of the story with association. Oh, let’s see. Top arrows pointing, left, bottom, pointing, left bottom, right. Yes. Okay. So, yep, your bottom, right. One is pointing to the right. So, yeah, having being dissociated, if your bottom right arrow is pointing to the right, generally speaking, being dissociated from your goal is going to be the most helpful. And also this is an extra little tidbit that has nothing to do with the pause process. But when it comes to think about goals, don’t worry about getting super specific about it because that also stresses me out and tends to stress out those with the bottom right arrow.

Just get the feeling, get the vibe, get the general kind of vague picture. Yep. Exactly. Yep. Non specific manifest. Er Exactly. So association and dissociation just recognize the difference between the two. Like start practicing that, start just recognizing and having awareness around when you’re experiencing either one to start to recognize the patterns in yourself. And then you can use your strategy and authority to determine when it’s correct and helpful for you to be in one versus the other instead of just being an autopilot. Because if living in autopilot worked, it would have worked by now.

So we’re not doing autopilot anymore here. We’re not doing that. We are stepping back to be the authority of our own lives instead of just letting our subconscious mind run the show. Because as is this human experience, we pick up a lot of ish throughout our entire life that served as a protective mechanism that no longer is helpful for us. We love our, we love our sweet subconscious mind and we don’t need to just let it run the show, Willy nilly, unsupervised. All right, let’s move on to the physical self. Alright.

So remember how we were talking about the filing cabinet. Your physical body is the filing cabinet for those beliefs, for all those thoughts, for those filing systems, for all of the like drawers and folders and everything your physical body is like the storage facility for all of that, right? So thoughts, memories, beliefs, they’re all stored in the physical body through the medium of the subconscious mind. So do you see how it all kind of interweaves together and why it’s so important to be connected with all aspects of who we are?

We can’t just, it’s like, I it’s funny, I did this quote back when I was doing health coaching. I thought I was so cute and clever. I saw this quote on Pinterest and so I posted it to saying um you have fat, you are not fat, you also have toes, you are not toes, which, um, it’s hilarious and I still think I still kind of like that because it makes me giggle. But also you are also your body, you are your body and you’re so much more than just your body.

I think the physical body is something that’s so easy for us to dissociate from because of all the things that can come up. Like when we experience unpleasant physical symptoms, it’s so easy to be like, you know what? But yeah, but that’s okay because I have all of these great personality traits or I have this career that I’m really excited about or I’ve got my family that I love, right? And all those things are important and also you’re going to experience those things on a much deeper and profound level when you’re also associated with and connected to your body. Okay.

Um So the physical self is first of all such an amazing gift, right? Like look at all the things like I can, I can, I can pick up items, I can smell things because I have a physical body, like we can do so many cool things, we can have Children because we have a physical body, you know. So regardless of whether your body is acting and giving you the human experience that you desire, it is a beautiful gift, okay. And it is through your physical body that you can access the subconscious mind without a body, you can’t have an out of body experience.

So you can access the subconscious mind through the physical plane. It’s really and you can do this in a conscious or subconscious way, right? So things like meditation or journaling or thought work, right? Like through NLP subconscious reprogramming, hypnotherapy, um intentionally shifting your your self talk. Those are all things that have to happen on the physical plane, right? Like I can’t write in my journal without a physical body to write with. So we see the importance of being able to utilize our physical body for change work, right?

Um And honestly change work through the physical body is way simpler than we make it out to be a lot of the time. It gets to be so simple. Like honestly, your homework for reconnecting with your physical self can be as simple as just sitting down, Setting a timer for one minute and just breathing just like paying attention. Like how does that breath feel? That’s interesting. How did that exhale feel? How did this inhale feel? Look at, I’m exhaling again. Oh, interesting. This nose feels a little bit stuffy. Okay.

I’m gonna breathe through my mouth. Oh How does that make my mouth feel when I’m breathing in air in my mouth? Like just noticing just letting the stream of thoughts happen as you’re breathing can be enough to help you reconnect with your body. You can also do so by like actual intentional breath work or yoga or meditation or TFT topping, right? And something that is super important to remember. And if this hits home for you, I want you to write this down. It is safe to reconnect with your body.

Because a lot of times again, it becomes sort of this like protective mechanism, it becomes this like sometimes a trauma response to dissociate from our body. I don’t want you to remember that it is safe, it is safe to be in your body. It is safe to be with your physical self. Like even just like wiggling your fingers can be a re connection moment for you just wiggling your fingers, just look at them like notice the way the skin creases and folds and just see like, okay, I’ve got a freckle there.

I’ve got some wrinkles there. Just notice that helps you look at it with curiosity and curiosity is going to be hugely important for you in releasing self judgment. This is something I talked about with my clients constantly is curiosity and creativity right now. I’m just talking about curiosity with you because if you’re curious about what’s happening with your body versus trying to make it mean something, it’s going to help you just recognize things for what they are instead of judging yourself for things and shaming yourself for things. Okay.

So it is safe to connect with your body. And if you’re here, that means you are ready to re assume responsibility for your physical self, whatever that might mean for you. That was one of those sentences that I wrote down that came through for me that I was like, I don’t, I don’t know what this is gonna mean for different people, but I’m gonna say that again. It’s time for you to re assume responsibility for your physical self because you’re a grown adult and you’re not a victim to your circumstances, you’re not a victim to your body.

You are your body and your body is beautiful and it is serving you perfectly right now. However, it is. Um, and another thing that’s really interesting to note when you are in a moment of just having awareness around your physical body, like whether you’re just like kind of wiggling your fingers or just sitting or laying and just breathing, right. A stuck aspect of the body reflects a stuck aspect of the whole being because again, everything is connected, all aspects of who you are, the physical, the mental and the soul, they’re all interwoven together.

So if you notice that there’s something stuck in the physical body, It’s the other aspects of yourself trying to relay a message to you, right? So, like I said, as a child, I experienced trauma, I was sexually abused as a child and like as, as I’ve gone through therapy and other coaching and all of this stuff, I have discovered why have had certain issues in my life. Like I had hip surgery at age 27. I’ve also had TMJ since like high school and hips and the jaw are very connected and because those are connected.

So is my diaphragm and I have breathing problems and these are also things that I am healing through and moving through and having curiosity around. But I’m aware, I’m aware of what they, what those messages are, which gives me the space and the loving um call out to remember like so it used to just be that my job and my job is way better than it used to be. It used to get so sore. My brother who’s a chiropractor would do just like deep into like you would get these gloves on it, like get in there and massage my jaw like my jaw muscles.

And she was always like, Megan, what is wrong with you? Your jaw is so, but it doesn’t get that bad anymore. It’s still kind of an issue. But like also there does come a point when if something turns chronic long enough, then even once you get to the root of the issue, like I’ve done a lot of healing with my trauma, I still have the physical symptoms that I’m moving through and I have plans, I’m thinking that getting braces might help with my jaw. I think that’s gonna help a really good chain reaction.

But like, and like, I also had to have surgery on my hip, right. So these issues can become chronic if left untreated for so long. That’s why the awareness can bring healing, even if it’s super unpleasant to go through the healing, even if it’s super unpleasant to actually process everything. It is going to be so good for your physical health in the long run, it’s going to have let you have a much more vibrant and full and pleasant life for the whole rest of your life. You could live to 100 and 10 if you wanted to, if you keep doing this kind of stuff, because your body is just gonna be vibrant and joyous.

And um that’s a spry. That’s what um So this is why and this is a man. I say this about all the things. That’s why this is one of my favorite parts of what I do as a coach is helping you look at the stuck pieces in your physical body and helping you relate that to the root because we can treat the band aids, we can put band aids on all we want and it’ll help for a minute. But until we get to the actual root of it, it’s going to continue popping up as a symptom. Okay.

The key with the physical self is just to allow yourself to slow down, slow down long enough to become consciously aware of what is happening inside of your body. Ignorance is not blessed here. Sometimes it can seem like that. And every once in a while I will go through like last year was like my whole last year was a dark night of the soul for me. Last year was one of the most challenging years of my life. And there were so many times when I would scream and cry in anger, like I don’t want to deal with this.

I wish I could go back to when I did not know about my trauma. You get it, you get me honestly, it gets to suck. And that’s, that was some of the times that I used the Polish process the most was when I was going through that anger because I did not like feeling that way. I did not like that. I had these memories. I did not like that. I had to go through this healing. And like one of my things has been feeling like I, once that floodgate opened up for me, when those memories of that trauma came out, all of a sudden, I could feel like all of this generational stuff coming to me like, okay, here you go, Megan.

Here’s all the generational stuff for you to heal to like this was just the opening for all of this stuff. And I had anger, I had resentment and yes, it’s in the DNA. Absolutely. Yep, so much. And it’s so interesting to so my grandma on my dad’s side, she passed away a couple of weeks ago now. And um, and it was a beautiful thing. It was wonderful. We’ve been, she has been miserable for years. It was such a beautiful release. And anyways, when she, like, in the last few weeks all of a sudden, I’m like, oh, I’ve got a little bit more healing available for me to move through now. Yeah.

It’s a whole, that’s a whole other conversation we could have. But anyways, but I didn’t make myself wrong for feeling those things, the anger, the resentment, they’re not bad, they’re not wrong. You’re not wrong for feeling those things. It’s part of the process. It is absolutely part of the process. You just have to slow down long enough to recognize what is happening in your body because something that’s common is getting triggered in one way or another and feeling unpleasant feelings. But you’re not consciously aware that you’re feeling those feelings, but suddenly you’re acting like you’re saying things that you wouldn’t normally say or your um, making decisions that you wouldn’t, that you don’t feel, you don’t feel like you’re being yourself right.

That’s usually because you’re just not letting yourself become conscious of your feelings because you’re afraid of looking at them or you’re afraid of what they’re going to mean. So if we can release the meaning, you will feel a lot safer to let yourself become aware of them. Okay. So let’s see it. What was my next? No, I kind of stopped looking at my notes for a second. Um Okay. So we’re gonna get into a few of the human design centers here in just a second. But one thing that I wanted to share is that generally speaking, in the human design world, you will hear people say that those with a defined splenic center, which if you’re looking at your body graph for those who are new to human design, the one that’s the little sideways triangle all the way to the left on your body graph, that’s your spleen center.

If it’s white, that means it’s either undefined or open. If it’s colored in whatever color it’s defined. And you will often hear people say that those with a defined screening center generally are not quite as sensitive to their physical body and its needs. So that’s the case for you all it takes is practice because guess what, I have a defined center and I am very aware of my physical body and its knees. And I attribute that to my dance background. I think if it wasn’t for my dance background, I would probably be pretty typical with my physical body.

But because I literally studied my career in my face, like my body was my career, right? I got really practiced at it. I just, I practiced on a conscious level. I kept practicing tapping into my physical body, recognizing what was happening, recognizing what was step, recognizing what could be shifted and playing. Oh I love playing with the physical body. It’s so fascinating. It’s so fascinating anyhow, I’m super good at knowing my body and recognizing the signs that it gives me and recognizing the messages that it sends me.

And that’s why I’m really good at showing you how to do the same thing as well because I have a defined center. But I’ve learned that once you just get practiced at it, it doesn’t matter what your definition is there, you can, you can receive messages from your body just as clearly as anyone else. Um Okay, lastly, the soul self, this is where we’re gonna get into human design and I’m gonna keep it really basic and simple here. So if you are brand new to human design and you have questions after this, um you can let me know and we’ll probably cover that on day three when we do the live coaching and the live Q and A. Um But there’s just three things within your human design that we’re going to look at and I wish I had my printed off chart with me, but I don’t think I pulled it out since we moved.

So, um I guess, oh, I can’t pull it up on my phone so I can pull it up on my. Um So in your human design, you have your strategy and your authority. If you haven’t pulled your human design chart, let me know and I’ll send you the link to do so or I can pull it up for you as well. I can pull it for you totally free. All good. Um Your strategy is your first line of defense. Always, always, always, always, always okay. So looking at your strategy, if you’re a generator like myself or a manifesting generator, your strategy is to respond, right?

So that is always numero uno always, always, always everything. And I say this constantly in my coaching, always, it boils down to your strategy and your authority. So practice it. If the, if you’re new to this or if you haven’t really opened up to it yet, practice, it just takes practice like so those who have a defined role, one of my favorite practices to give my clients that our generators or manage ens is to find like someone that you trust like a spouse or a best friend or a family member to just ask you yes or no questions. Okay.

That’s a really good way to get in touch with your strategy. Um And I talk about that because I know Jen that you’ve got to find a girl. So for anyone watching the replay, if you want suggestions for how to practice living in your strategy, email me, message me, I’ll give you some suggestions. Okay. Um And then your authority. So some of you will have sacred as your strategy and your authority. If you’re like me and Jen, you have your sacred is your strategy and then your solar plexus as your authority.

So Jen, since you’re here we’re gonna talk about that for a second. Again, anyone else knows a different authority that you want help with. Hit me up. I will totally love to and we can also talk about it on Friday. But the way my favorite way to look at this with the strategy and the authority is like two factor authentication. So your first line of defense is always that strategy. And I like to look at that strategy to respond as a traffic light. So you respond to something and you’re gonna get a green light to go ahead like yes.

Oh yeah, that feels good. Or you’re going to get a red light like uh and a lot of the time it’s vocal, right? Like nope, don’t like that or you’ll get kind of a yellow light or like you’re kind of wishy washy. I don’t know. I’m not sure that either just means that you need the information presented to you in a different way. You need to present it to you at another time or it means that it’s a yes, you’re trying to make a no or to know that you’re trying to make it. Yes.

So for your, if your initial response is feeling wishy washy, wishy washy, that’s all that means. And then so once you have responded to something, if it’s a red light, that’s it, you don’t need to go through your emotional authority. Not necessarily, I mean, you still certainly can, but if you get that red light. That’s like, oh, okay. No, we don’t even need to consider that as an option. You get the green light, that’s your first factor authentication. Then you get to let it run through your emotional authority. 1000.

You get to let it run through your emotional way. You want to at least sleep on it for at least one night. The bigger the decision, honestly, the more time you give it the better if it’s like a smaller decision, you know, like, like you really don’t need to use your emotional authority for deciding what to have for breakfast or what to wear that day. Right. Your steak roll is great for those kinds of decisions. For actual like bigger decisions. You want to ride out that wave.

And the way that I look at the wave is like, it’s like you’re trying on the decision in all of your emotional states. So it’s like trying on the same hat with several different outfits and it’s like, okay. So I got the green light for this decision initially, I felt really excited about it. But with an emotional authority, you want to be in a neutral place and you make a decision, right? You don’t want to be in the highs, you don’t want to be in the low because that leads to regret.

Ask me how I know. Right. Right. The good thing marrying my husband was a good decision. We’ll just, um, because there’s zero regret there anyhow. So it’s like trying it on, right. Like, so I got the green light here so it felt good at this level of my way, but it feels good here. It still feels good here. Like even if you’re in your low, like, yeah, that decision still feels good. Even though I’m feeling really crappy right now and then keep going up. Oh yeah, still feels good.

Even though I’m super excited, you just keep trying it on until you hit clarity and You’re like, you’re not ever gonna be 2% certain. So don’t wait for 100% certainty. If you have an emotional authority, usually like between 60 and 80% certain is good enough and in a neutral place like usually once you come to a decision, you’re not gonna be all like, yes, okay. This is what I’m gonna do. I’m so excited like hell, you’re not usually gonna be there. You’re just gonna be like, yeah. Mhm That’s the right choice.

We’re just gonna, we’re gonna go ahead with that. So yes. Mhm Calm, clarity, calm and grounded and confident. Those are like kind of the feelings that at least I tap into. And again, everyone’s emotional wave is going to look and feel differently as well. So Friday will be a great day to ask specific questions about your strategy and your authority as well, but that’s enough for you to get started on. Um And then I want to talk just very quickly about the awareness centers. Okay. Um So in again, in your human design hail me, see if I can zoom in on my chart here.

Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn’t. Here we go. Kind of I love genetic matrix but their app is not the best. Okay. So here is my chart. Oh, kind of it’s not the best but it’s fine. You get it. So we have three awareness centers that I want you to kind of just look at with regards to the pause process. Okay. So right up here, second triangle in the head, the one that’s pointing down, that’s the agena that is anyway. Okay. I don’t need to get into that.

And then over here and then the two side triangles. So over here, one on the right side of your graph, I don’t know if I’m flipped or not, but if you’re looking at your chart, the one on the right, that’s your solar plexus. And then on the left is your, Those are the three awareness centres. So take a look at those for yourself and just write down if they are open and under open slash undefined, that means they’re white or if they’re colored in and defined because those are going to have an impact on how you experience feelings.

So the agena so they okay, I’m trying not to overload too much information with the agenda if you have that open or undefined. You’re going to pick up on anxieties, thoughts ruminations very easily. You’re gonna pick up on those from all kinds of sources and a lot of them are not going to be yours. They’re not generated from you and they’re not yours to continue to marinate it. And using your strategy and authority is how you’re going to release them and using this process is how you’re going to release them. Okay.

So that’s just again, something to keep in mind. I’m not going to go really into depth about what those centers mean because there’s a lot I could share on that. Again, if you have more questions on it, we can talk more about it on Friday. But so anxiety thoughts, if you have it open, you’re gonna pick up on them and they’re not necessarily yours to keep, if it’s defined, it will be easier for you to be generating them and to get caught in a loop over and over and over and over and over and over again and again, that’s not necessarily going to serve you because every aspect of your design can have a low expression and a high expression.

This pause process is going to help you. If you have a defined center, it’s gonna help you shift from the low expression to the high expression. And if you have an opener undefined, it’s gonna help you release the things that are not for you, see the difference there and it goes the same for both the solar plexus and the spleen center. So the solar plexus is the center for emotions. So if you have that opener undefined, you’re a true empath, you’re a true empath and like the truest sense of the word, right?

You can still be empathic if you have that to find because I know I am right. Um And a lot of that is because of my open head and Arjuna. But again, that’s a topic for a whole other conversation. If you have an open solar plexus, you are going to be picking up on the feelings and emotions of people, plants, animals, things around you. And again, this process is going to help you recognize and release what is not for you because a lot of the times with any open or undefined centers, your purpose and your ability to pick up on things, your purpose is to let them.

It’s like I get this visual and I feel like there’s a thing that’s like this, but it’s like you pick up on this like energy with your opener, undefined centers and it like words around it within you and it gets really, really, really big and then you shoot it back out whoever needs it. So it’s bigger and more obvious so they can pick up on it easier. You have a very important job with that. We have a very important job with any of our open undefined centers and it can happen like that.

It can happen in a blip of a second, the better you get it releasing what is not for you, the quicker and more efficient it gets, you don’t need to ruminate on a feeling that isn’t for you for a week before you get rid of it. Because if it’s not for you, it’s not gonna serve you to remain in your body. So tomorrow when we go through the framework, you’re going to learn how to recognize when it’s not for you and to send it on out. Okay.

That’s literally what the framework is for. And then the spleen center that is the center for like fears. That’s like our O G center. It’s like the center for survival and instinct, right? And back in the day, fears, what kept us alive. So we have fears in our D N A. We have fears embodied and encoded within our DNA and they serve a purpose just not the same purpose that they were originally put there for. We don’t need to run away from sabertooth tigers anymore. We don’t need to be on high alert at two AM unless you have a baby screaming at you for milk.

But you know what I’m saying, like we don’t need to constantly be vigilant anymore. We get to release that so much more than we do and it’s okay again, you’re not wrong for experiencing that fear. You just get to recognize when it’s for you and when it’s not serving you. So again, if you have it defined, if you’re generating that fear, you get to use this process to shift from the low expression to the high expression of. It’s the same energy. It’s the same, I don’t even know what word I’m looking for, but it’s, it’s the same thing, but there’s just a low expression and a high expression.

So you’re gonna shift to experiencing. It’s like, okay when I use the word experience a lot, when it comes to energy and everything and it sounds really vague, but look at it like this. So I could have the talent for welding I just have never experienced because I’ve never done it. I’ve never used it, right. And I don’t really care to, I don’t really have a desire to weld, but like I could, I could be super talented at welding and I just don’t even know it because I’m in the low expression of that, of that gift, right?

And sometimes it’s totally fine to stay in the low expression. Maybe we’re okay with that. But a lot of the time you’re probably gonna want to shift into the higher expression because again, that’s going to give you more vibrancy, it’s going to give you better all over health, physical, mental, spiritual health, all that’s going to improve, the more that we shift into high vibration expression of the energy that’s within our body. Does that make sense when it comes to experiencing the low versus the high expression. Okay.

So that is like the really quick rundown on the aspects of human design that we’re going to touch on that are going to be relevant tomorrow. So your homework is so simple. You are going to, if you’re new to this, you’re going to learn about And otherwise experiment with your strategy and your authority for the next 24 hours. That’s going to be your main focus is just really getting in touch with your strategy and your authority playing with it. Let it be fun, let it feel good. And again, if you need suggestions on how to play with this, hit me up, I’ll give you some suggestions um because that’s going to be number one with making sure that this process works for you because I don’t believe in following someone else’s step by step process.

That’s just not a thing. It’s just not. And it drives me crazy when I hear people say like, oh if you want to feel your feelings, just do this and then this and then this okay, that works for you and that’ll work for some people, but that’s not going to work for everyone. And then someone who doesn’t work for is going to think that they’re broken, you’re not broken. You just need to learn how to be your own authority. You need to learn to trust yourself. So that is number one is becoming aware of these aspects of yourself and getting really comfortable with trusting your own strategy and your authority.

Once you’ve done those, you are going to be able to create the most potent, powerful transformative process for feeling your feelings than you’ve ever experienced before ever in your life. So, did I talk too fast? You have any questions, any thoughts that you would like to share before we close out today? I’m watching the chat. I just need examples of experimenting, but I guess I can email you for that. Yeah. Yeah. And so again, so with the, and I can just give a couple of quick ones too.

So with the steak role as your strategy, right? Again, you can have your husband just ask you some yes or no questions like um do you like the color blue? Do you like the smell of lilacs? Do you um do you want Chinese food right now? Do you like just quick fire? Yes or no questions? You can have them write a bunch down and then just read them too quick fire. And that’s gonna help you really get in touch with your sacred. So anyone what this defines April something like that is a really good way to start getting familiar with what it feels like because what a green light, yes, feels like in your body is going to feel different than it does in my body.

You’ll feel it, feel it somewhere different. Just get used to what the feeling is the same thing with the red light, right? With that? No. What does it feel like? And what does the note feel like? You can also do it just by looking around at your environment. That’s how I tend to handle like household chores. I used to like write down the list. Okay. These are the things that I need to get done today in the house and it just has never really worked for me.

Part of that again is because I’m a quad. Right. Um, and part of it is because I need to just follow my steak roll. Like, maybe I had the plan to do laundry today. But as I looked at it, I was like, that’s not it. And then I looked over at the dishes like, oh, yep. I don’t like doing the dishes. I hate doing the dishes but I got that like, oh, that’s gonna feel better to have done. So you can just kind of like, look at things like, or like for fun.

Do I want to do? I wanna, I’ve got Harry Potter sitting up, holding up my computer and I’m like, do I want to read Harry Potter right now or do I want to color in procreate or do I want to do yoga? Right. So, like, you can just, like, look at things and that’s, that can get a little bit more advanced because that’s following your inner urge versus like, having actual like information, hard clear cut information coming at you. But those are kind of two ways that you can play with your steak roll.

Um And then it’s, it’s a little bit more challenging to play with your emotional authority in just a day. Um But something that you could do is just like write down the feelings that you’re feeling throughout the day, just write them down, just notice where you are in your emotional way. Just notice it. That’s really the most simple, easy way to, especially if you have a subconscious emotional way which you and I have talked about already. Um It’s a little bit more challenging to recognize that while you’re in it.

So if you can start writing it down or even asking your husband, like, hey, how have I like, what have you been noticing how I’ve been like acting or feeling? You know, because they can, they can sometimes pick up on that for you as well if you just let you know, like you’ve been seeming kind of like antsy or you kind of see a little bit irritated or you kind of seem this way and then you can be like, no, that’s not it, but it’s actually this, right?

So just start to notice where you are in your wave and that will help you receive clarity as well. Because if you start to notice like, oh I’m kind of in the low of my wave, right? Now and that’s okay. We’ll come out of it, right. Just notice where you are and that’s gonna help you just notice where you are. That’s really, that’s really it for the emotional authority can be really complex and maybe someday I’ll do like a master class just on the emotional authority. But yeah, alright, I’ll put that on my list of things that could be fun.

But for now really to play with the emotional authority, just notice where you are in your way, just notice it and then learn to be patient with it as well. Don’t try to force it to become anything different. Meet yourself where you are. Is that clear as mad? Yes, it is absolutely gonna take practice. Absolutely. It is especially with the subconscious aspect of an emotional wave. It takes practice just like it took practice for me to really be able to be in tune with my body with a defined spleen.

But once you are practiced at it, then it just becomes natural. And so this is again, something that we could do subconsciously or consciously right now you’re working on it consciously, which is totally fine. And if we want to do some change work, subconsciously, we can also do that and that can help speed up the process, right? One is not better than the other. Right now, we’re choosing the conscious route and that’s great. So just start noticing and just start practicing and give yourself grace when you fall out of that practice because you will, you will and that’s fine. Okay.

It’s 3 33. 333. Okay. Any other questions or thoughts or anything? And it’s 2 22. It’s February 22nd. I know I saw in my memories that a year ago it was 2 22 22. It’s a good day. It is a good moment. I love this. Yes. Okay. Well, I will go ahead and close this out. I will get this replay up ASAP and that’s another thing too. Like if you’re going about this change, work consciously re watch this over and over and over again, you can watch this however many times you want. If that, if that feels good for you don’t just re watch it because it’s another way for you to emotionally bypass only watch it if it feels supportive and healing for you. Yeah. Okay. Alright.

Well, if any other questions or thoughts or anything come up between now and tomorrow, email me, message me, comment on the Facebook thing, leave the post. I’m very, I’m I’m in this, I am passionate about this. So I will be available to guide you through this whole process this week.

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